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The sadness felt in the loss of, or empathy felt for the pain of a loved one, are not included in the statements that are to follow. This is also not related to negating any of the responsibilities that go hand in hand with living life as an adult - such as parenthood and providing for those in our care, to the best of our ability.

Today, we all know that there is heightened awareness of the need to find one's higher self, as humankind, for the purpose of creating a better Universe.

It is also well known that the more peaceful and happy we are, the less stressed we feel. You can get more things done, in fact, you can do great things. Just being you at your happiest and strongest.

Imagine the energy if you happened to come across a whole lot of peaceful, happy people together. Truly amazing!

Imagine what all of those peaceful, happy people could achieve together, for mankind.

I'm posing the following, merely as a guide to thinking about what it might feel like to be true to oneself.

Consider that one's happiness might just be strongly related to being oneself.

What does this mean: being true or to be true to oneself?

How many times have you thought: If only I didn't … do that, say that, work here, feel like this, have to do that?

And how many times have you thought: If only I … did that, had that, felt that, took hold of that opportunity, could just be myself?

And what about all the things that we feel should first be in place and what all we feel we should have in our lives to be contentedly us?

Why are we allowing ourselves to be in an unhappy state for a longer than necessary time? Why do we believe that if we just hang in a little longer, it will become more bearable?

That if we just made a little more effort, the unhappy circumstances would become happy ones?

I'm also not negating the idea of trying one's utmost to heal a situation or relationship in one's life. If however, we realize that nothing is changing, and that the situation does not lean toward reaching a happier, more peaceful state, why do we still stay on? Guilt? Wishful thinking? Shame? Sadness at the loss of a once beautiful notion?

We are allowed to move on, we are allowed to say that we are not happy, and to take the time to decide what will make us happy.

How many times are we more worried about what people, or our colleagues or certain individuals in our life might say or think of us - therefore we choose to stay in the unhappy situation?

How many times do we stay when we ought to go, when we want to leave, because of our fear that people will think we are failures, or have failed at whatever?

Or that others may think that we are not strong or brave enough, that we are perhaps too sensitive and unrealistic, as life is not perfect?

Or that we are not clever or resilient enough?

What is it that we endure because we do not want to hurt someone else's feelings?

In this moment, are you and I authentically ourselves?

What is it that we feel might be standing in our way to being a peaceful, happy us? What, in our lives, are we feeling resentful, or strained, or restrained about?

What about your feelings?

Which is more important:

To spare the feelings of everyone else so that we are seen as good and considerate, whilst others decide what we are supposed or not supposed to do? Whose life are we talking about here?

Or to take heed of our own feelings, do what we need to do in order for us to be more congruent with who we are, so that we can be at our optimal state in mind, body and soul?

What is it that must first be dealt with, within you, to be yourself? To be the core of who you are, in your most content state?

Our happiness is derived from our choices, our preferences and what that means in relation to being our optimal selves, each living our optimal life.

This would include having values related not only to your own life, but also related to the effect of your life on others who are and who you choose to have in your immediate surroundings.

We have the right to look after ourselves in any manner that suits our preferences, regarding what we want to expose ourselves to, and what we don't want to be exposed to.

The question is how we want to feel about ourselves, and also how the external influence of our surroundings may affect our state of mind.

It depends on how much we see of and love our real selves. It relates to the depth of the individual's need to be who they truly are.

I've tried some not so user-friendly options before, in trying to attain a sense of being me, and lately I have found that in just sensing some of the options below, I'll know soon enough if I am happy or not:

Am I calm?

Am I safe?

Am I accepted and respected for being me, by the people I am with?

Am I enjoying what I am doing?

Am I enjoying how I earn my income?

Am I adding value somewhere?

Am I being responsible?

Am I being me?

All of the things that we did or did not do, everything we have experienced from when we were born, until this split second, all of this combines to make each and every one of us who we are. There is no more time for guilt, non-forgiveness, shame, holding back, being less, feeling disempowered, feeling stuck, feeling hurt, feeling worthless, feeling frustrated, feeling unhappy.

What happens from this moment on is what counts. Take stock of all the life lessons you have learned. What is the bigger picture? Is the human race not incredible? Look at all that you have experienced, gained, learned, survived and where your life is at right now. And decide: feeling happy or not? Feeling empowered, or not?

Imagine that there will come a time when each of us will be needed to do something rather important. Many people are already doing their important task, others are busy realizing it, as we speak.

And there's more to come, because when we get to understanding what that important task is for us, we just learn and evolve quicker. We become stronger, more peaceful, and add increased value while being who we are and living our purpose meaningfully and loving it, along with like-minded souls.

Sounds like a fairy tale?

Well, I choose to go with this. The other fairy tales certainly were just that, but this feels real, and I certainly do feel so much more like me and in control of what is happening to me in my life.

Life Can Be Different!

Here's wishing you the gift of your True Self.

Yolanda Brand
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